Questions To Get To Know Someone for Better Connections
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Want to build deeper relationships or just start getting to know someone you may be interested in? This post is here to help!
We’re sharing so many questions for icebreakers, conversation starters, or to just get the ball rolling on getting to know someone. Even if you’ve known them for a while, these questions and ideas will help you feel more connected and learn new things about a friend, crush, or even spouse!
Sometimes you just feel stumped on what to talk about with a friend or significant other. It can feel like a challenge to think of thought provoking questions to really help you get to know someone better.
We’ve put together some lighthearted and more serious topics to help get the flow of the conversation moving along.
Why Ask These Questions?
Wondering if these questions are right for your conversation? If you’re contemplating asking these questions or not, here are a few reasons you may find these questions helpful.
- Build connections with friends in the same season of life as you
- Learn from mentors or those older and wiser than you
- Determine if a significant other is the right fit for you or not
- Establish deeper relationships with family members
- Engage with your children or teens in conversation
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What Type Of Questions Should You Be Asking?
It really depends on who you are engaging in conversation with. If you are hoping to learn from someone, asking questions about their life, previous experiences, and opportunities is a good idea.
Looking for a romantic partner? If so, questions about their belief system, future goals, and ideal life is a good place to start.
Nurturing a budding friendship? Keep it fun! Ask them questions about hobbies, favorite foods, activities, adventures, and more.
Questions for Humans – Highly Recommended
Before we get to the list of questions, we want to recommend the Questions for Humans cards by Dr. John Delony.
Having these helps to break the ice. It doesn’t seem so random to ask these questions when you present it like a game or fun activity using this deck of cards!
Luckily, there are different versions for couples, parents/kids, friends, parents/teens, dating, grandparents, girl’s night, guy’s night, elementary classroom, middle school, high school, holidays, and the workplace. There really is something for EVERYONE.
Alright, enough about that, let’s get to the thought provoking questions you came for! Look through these and jot down any that you think would be really good questions to ask the person you are interested in getting to know better.
60 Questions to Get to Know Someone Better
As promised, here are 60 thought provoking questions to start asking when you need a conversation boost!
Childhood & Past Experiences
- What’s a memory from your childhood that you think shaped part of who you are today?
- What was your home like growing up?
- Did you ever pretend to be a certain character when you played as a kid?
- Did your family have any special traditions growing up?
- What’s a memory you hope you always remember?
- What’s a rule your parents had that you totally despised at the time?
- What was your go to comfort food as a kid?
- Who was the first person who really pushed you?
- If your childhood had a soundtrack, what three songs would definitely be on it?
- What’s something your younger self would be shocked you don’t care about now?
Values & Beliefs
- What’s something you’ll never joke about?
- Do you think people are more shaped by pain or by joy?
- What’s a belief you used to hold strongly but have changed your mind about?
- What’s one non negotiable value you bring into all your relationships?
- Do you believe in soulmates, or do we grow into the people we’re meant to love?
- What do you think is more important, being understood or being accepted?
- In what ways do you hope to be misunderstood less as you get older?
- What does “home” mean to you. Not the place, but the feeling?
- Is forgiveness something you give easily, or do you wrestle with it?
- When do you feel most aligned with the person you want to be?
Personality & Identity
- What’s a part of your personality that people often misread?
- When you’re feeling down, what’s something that makes you feel better?
- Do you think you’re more of an observer or a participant when something in new to you?
- What’s a compliment that stuck with you longer than you’d think?
- How do you like to show love to others?
- If your inner world had a color, what would it be and why?
- When do you feel most like “yourself”?
- What’s something weird you’ve always done but never thought was weird until someone pointed it out?
- What’s your emotional “default setting” and do you like it?
- Do you ever feel like your personality changes depending on who you’re with?
Relationships & Connections
- What do you think makes a relationship feel safe?
- What’s a little gesture that makes you feel really seen?
- What’s one thing someone could say that really makes you feel appreciated?
- When do you know you’ve really clicked with someone?
- What’s something a past relationship taught you about yourself. Not them, but you?
- Do you believe people can love each other deeply and still grow apart?
- What’s your idea of a perfect “ordinary” day with someone you care about?
- When do you tend to pull away from people, and do you always know why?
- How do you repair connections when they start to fray?
- What’s a question you wish more people would ask you, but they never do?
Dreams, Ambitions & The Future
- What’s a goal that scares you in the best way possible?
- If you could design your ideal life 10 years from now, what’s one surprising detail it would include?
- What’s something you hope you never stop learning about?
- What does “success” feel like for you?
- If you had a blank year to do anything, no obligations, what would you do with it?
- What part of your life do you hope will always stay a little chaotic?
- What do you want to leave behind. Not in a legacy sense, but for your own peace?
- If you had to write a letter to your future self, what’s one line you’d make sure to include?
- What’s a dream you gave up on, and do you ever think about going back to it?
- What’s your relationship with ambition. It is a friend, foe, or something in between?
Interests, Curiosities & Passions
- What’s something you could talk about for hours and never get bored?
- What’s a little joy you’ve recently rediscovered?
- Do you prefer starting things or finishing them?
- What’s a topic you wish people asked you more about?
- What kind of stories grab your heart immediately?
- If you could have a completely random skill instantly, what would it be?
- What hobby would you dive into if time and money didn’t matter at all?
- What’s something you’ve always wanted to learn but haven’t told anyone?
- What kind of creativity do you admire most in others?
- When was the last time you were really proud of something you’ve done?
Conclusion
Thought provoking questions don’t have to take up much time and brain power! Use this list for easy questions that flow naturally.
When in a pinch, work your way down this list to get to know the person better!
